Question of the week…

What motivates you?

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When a black man is approached by a woman of another ethnic group…….

When a man is interested in a black woman she gives him the run around and blow him off (when she knows she is just as interested) sometimes even insult and/turn her nose up (especially when her friends are around, just for their approval) and then when that same man is approached by another race/ethnic woman that gives him the time of day, the black woman gets mad and says “what’s wrong with her; all the black women in the world why he couldn’t talk to black woman”?  Why do the African American woman do that all the time?

Platinum!

I think you date or love what is good for you, a mature woman doesn’t need her friends approval cause if they were her friends she wouldn’t even feel the need to get the approval anyway, but if your interested in a black queen that just as Muff Wilson said, that has her situation together, then she is looking for someone on her level that isn’t lying to get what he wants so if dating outside your race make you feel comfortable with you then by all means go for it just don’t down my sistas to feel better about your decision to date “others”

Generally speaking by ~I’m just sayin in Iraq~

 Well “some” African American men seem like they make their criteria harder for African American women to be “marry material” than for another nationality i.e. the black woman needs to have good credit, good job, a certain amount of kids preferably one but they will marry another nationality impoverished. So I think “some” black women feel it’s an insult when we its perceived they only want one thing, and so what they feel is the “run around” is really to see how serious they really are…- anonymous lol

Platinum says: I agree totally case I point when you move to the middle east leave your wife of 20 yrs to be with a broke ass flip and have kids but a black woman with 2 is pathetic  who’s lost people

 The Shining Star!

You know what… unfortunately that is so true. I seen it time and time again with friends. They won’t give him the time of day, he moves on and finds him someone else and don’t let it be someone of another ethnic group, she now has an attitude and then all of a sudden she wants him now. This is something I can’t answer but will say…so true and it’s shame it happens like this too.

Muff Wilson!

I cannot speak for all women but I can speak for myself as well as a few of my good friends.  We can careless what nationality of woman a man talks to, but black women at least the ones that I associate with- most times have their act together, for example: education, finances, frame of mind, etc.  So when a man approaches we want him to come correct….We have standards……we desire as well as require more than a “cat call” while out with friends.  We want to feel special!!!  We have come a long way and worked too hard for the little respect that we get now, so when a man wants our time- he has to come correct like he’s really interested, like he can hold a descent conversation, and like he wants more than to see under our clothes.

 The Author!

Sisters be the first ones acting stank but get mad and jealous when you holding hands with a woman of another race. LOL! I don’t understand it. ALL I can say in the Sister defense is….we’re all not on that BS. If a guy steps to me correctly decent conversation, no sagging pants….lol he will get a descent conversation. Nowadays most brothers don’t have respect. I’m not looking for a wanna be thug. I need someone that I can take to my Parents w/o telling him to pull his pants up.

 

Who’s more Romantic?

In memory of the G.O.A.T. Tupac Birthday!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

TUPAC AMARU SHAKUR

(June 16, 1971 – September 13, 1996)

 

Question of the week…

Is Chivalry dead?

 

WHAT’S ON YOUR MIND?

HOME IS ON MY MIND!

Question about Open Relationships….

 

Open Relationships

So you and your significant other has been dating for several years. Your partner feel as though you’re growing apart. You both love each other and want to stay together. Then out of the blue your partner ask you what do you think about being in an open relationship? Talk to me….

 

I’m just sayin… by the Man with the keys to the City

In theory it probably could cut down on a lot of fights and arguments cause everything would be in the open and no one would be getting mad at the other one… unless that person wasn’t getting any good moments from whoever they are with..lol…Deprived ….lol…   

No open relationships for me Buddy by the Author 

After several years of dating I think we need to be heading down the aisle not seeing other people. If we’re growing apart then we need to figure out how to repair our relationship without bringing other people into our mix. I’m not down for it. NOT AT ALL!

Response by the Ladies Man

If a person that you are in a relationship with starts to entertain being in an open relationship, then it’s time to step back and really focus on if you really want to be in a relationship with someone that thinks being with someone else is an good option.

The thing about it is if a person is happy with their current status then they would not have any reason to think of being with any other people. 

Just because you love each other does not mean you have to be together. I have seen the greatest loves between a couple and they were not in a relationship. when they were together the relationship was not the best of times during the relationship and when they went their separate ways, the love was in harmony. My points is just because you love a person and that person loves you, there’s no law that says you are suppose to be together. You can love a person without the ties.

You might like it by Anonymous!

It works for Will and Jada!

  No by Bad Newz

Love is: sacred, trust, respect, honor, commitment, giving your heart, soul and mind. How can one truly love their significant other by asking them this question? We love with our hearts and therefore put every ounce of strength/energy we have into making our relationships healthy. Having a trusted, committed marriage/relationship is the goal of every normal individual and is strived for in this world of sin, an open relationship is basically living a single life, without any commitments or worries. Why waste time with a significant other whom your growing apart from, it is evident that he/she likes one or two characteristic’s about you, but don’t love you nor respect as the individual you are. This causes emotional stress and heartaches in your life, because it was your significant other that asked for the open relationship not you. You must walk away from him/her, start the healing process and move forward with a positive attitude. Stress Kills and if you continue to put your heart into one that obviously don’t love you, it isn’t healthy. Walk away as fast as you can, before you be in a threesome with whom he/she is currently attracted too and your eyes aren’t open to see this yet…Walk Away…You deserve better!!!

 

Nathaniel “Nat” Turner

DID YOU KNOW:

Nathaniel “Nat” Turner (October 2, 1800 – November 11, 1831)

Nat Turner was Slave who led a Slave Rebellion in Southampton County Virginia on August 21, 1831. The Slave Rebellion resulted in 56 white deaths and over 55 black deaths. Turner was convicted, sentenced to death, and executed. In the aftermath, the state executed 56 blacks accused of being part of Turner’s slave rebellion. Two hundred blacks were also beaten and killed by white militias and mobs reacting with violence.

Today’s Inspirational Song…

 

Trin-i-tee 5:7: God’s Grace

 

Everything you need is right here
All of your problems, yes I’m aware
And when you’re down, I’ll be right there
You can call on Me cause
I’ll hear your prayer
No other name can bring joy when there is pain
He’ll do it for you but first you gotta know it’s by grace
Chorus:
It’s by God’s grace
All things through Christ Jesus
No weapon formed against me shall prosper
I’m so glad to know (so glad)
It’s by God’s grace
All things through Christ Jesus
No weapon formed against me shall prosper

Say you got laid off
Can’t pay your bills
Sick, can’t get well
My Jesus heals
He’ll brighten up your darkest day
Put trust in Him
And he’ll make a way
Anyone the son sets free – is free indeed
He’ll set you free
But first you got to be a believer and know that it’s by God
It’s by God’s grace
All things through Christ Jesus
No weapon formed against me shall prosper
Come on in before the sun goes down
Even though the devil’s got you down
Though you’re tired of going round and round
Take the Word and knock him down
He’ll forgive you of your sin
Open up and let Him in
Let the Lord show you His love
We are more than conquerors

Everything you need is right here
All of your problems, yes I’m aware
And when you’re down, I’ll be right there
You can call on Me cause
I’ll hear your prayer
No other name can bring joy when there is pain
He’ll do it for you but first you gotta know it’s by grace
Chorus:
It’s by God’s grace
All things through Christ Jesus
No weapon formed against me shall prosper
I’m so glad to know (so glad)
It’s by God’s grace
All things through Christ Jesus
No weapon formed against me shall prosper

Say you got laid off
Can’t pay your bills
Sick, can’t get well
My Jesus heals
He’ll brighten up your darkest day
Put trust in Him
And he’ll make a way
Anyone the son sets free – is free indeed
He’ll set you free
But first you got to be a believer and know that it’s by God
It’s by God’s grace
All things through Christ Jesus
No weapon formed against me shall prosper
Come on in before the sun goes down
Even though the devil’s got you down
Though you’re tired of going round and round
Take the Word and knock him down
He’ll forgive you of your sin
Open up and let Him in
Let the Lord show you His love
We are more than conquerors

Acceptance and Loving you for you!

 If you don’t accept yourself, why would anyone accept you….

 Acceptance/ approval……

 Everyone wants to be accepted. But the truth of the matter is no one will accept you if you don’t accept yourself. Self acceptance is loving yourself and being happy with yourself in spite of your weaknesses and your flaws. Knowing that you are not perfect and you will never be perfect.

 Have you ever wondered why someone seems as if they have it all together? It’s not the designer clothes, the fancy jewelry or the nice cars. It’s the confidence! Think about it when you love yourself, not only does it show, you are true to yourself and not pretending to be someone else and you are confident in everything you do. Your light shines bright! 

If you’re feeling insecure with yourself, learn to appreciate you for who you are. Look for the good in you and embrace it. Stop sitting around feeling sorry for yourself and beating yourself up. You have one life to live……enjoy it to the fullest!

 Always Remember: It’s not who you are that holds you back, it’s who you think you’re not.  ~Author Unknown

 

Smooches E’

The EXpected and the UNexpected (Things beyond your control)

 

Always expect the unexpected…….

 

The expected and the unexpected……

Don’t waste your time getting upset or worrying over the expected. The expected will more than likely remain the same and there’s nothing you can do about it. Don’t spend too much time dealing with the unexpected look for some good in it, pray on it, accept it, and move on.

Always Remember: “Breathe. Let go. And remind yourself that this very moment is the only one you know you have for sure.Oprah Winfrey

 

Smooches E’

 

Sunday Prayer

For Unfailing Strength

Do not look forward to what may happen tomorrow; the same everlasting Father who cares for you today will take care of you tomorrow and every day. Either He will shield you from suffering, or He will give you unfailing strength to bear it. Be at peace, then. Put aside all anxious thoughts and imaginations, and say continually: “The Lord is my strength and my shield. My heart has trusted in Him and I am helped. He is not only with me but in me, and I in Him.”